Centenarians share advice for long-lasting love and marriage
Love may be timeless, but when it comes to marriage, a lot has changed in the last 100 years. Who better to give marriage and love advice than centenarians? After all, these individuals, have cultivated a century of wisdom on the subject and have seen drastic changes in both divorce rates and the institution of marriage itself.
In 1910, nearly 80 percent of households contained a married couple. That continued through 1950, until the number dropped to 74 percent in 1965, 64 percent in 1977 and then plummeted to 56 percent in 1989.
Because love is a notoriously tricky business, we picked the brains of Holiday Retirement’s centenarians – or those who have celebrated a 100th birthday – to gather their best advice for love and marriage. The top three pieces of advice shared were:
- make a stronger effort to communicate (29 percent);
- say “I love you” more often (22 percent);
- and spend more time together (22 percent).
In the spirit of February, the month of love, check out the following romance and marriage tips from a few of Holiday Retirement’s wisest residents.
Work toward a common goal
Esther Odom, a 101-year-old resident Holiday Retirement's Highland Estates, keeps her advice on love simple: don’t argue and make sure you align in the same core beliefs. That’s how she and her husband John raised five children and enjoyed more than 50 years of marriage.
Love before anything else
Married to Pat for 70 years, a nearly 100 year old Kent Skiles says the winning combination for a long-lasting marriage is love, compatibility and trust. These Holiday Retirement at Point Defiance Village residents also advise never go to bed mad at one another, love before anything else and to not be afraid to argue. Lastly, Kent urges that liking a different football team than your spouse is not a problem. Something many of us can relate to!
Patience is the marriage virtue
Married three times, Roberta Watts, from Holiday Retirement at Fox Run Estates, has learned a thing or two about marriage in her 101 years. She believes couples need to accept one another for who they are and not try to change each other. She also urges spouses to be patient with one another.
Discover more thoughts on love and marriage from Holiday Retirement’s centenarians by downloading “100 years of Wisdom: The Perspective of Centenarians,” an e-book that blends hot-button issues with frank and surprising advice at holidaytouch.com/life-at-holiday/100-years-of-wisdom.