3 creative ways to discuss senior living options
Sometimes a parent’s perception may not align with reality, or he or she might be resistant to the overall discussion. Perhaps a parent insists he or she is too healthy or too young to move out of his or her current home. If this is the case, consider the conversation in a more creative way with these ideas:
If applicable, give your parent specific examples of why you are concerned about his or her current living situation. Maybe he or she frequently has expired food in the fridge or he or she is not able to access the second floor of the home due to physical limitations. Giving examples can help your parent better understand where you are coming from with your concerns.
If your parent dismisses conversations to consider senior living options or discuss any decline in health or cognitive abilities, consider enlisting the perspective of others—a doctor, neighbor, or friend. Sometimes gathering an objective individual’s perspective can help a parent better understand the concerns an adult child may have about his or her current living situation.
Make it a game
If you are having trouble getting your parent to open up or to realistically relate to their daily realities, try implementing “The Cards I’ve Been Dealt.” This is a card game created to draw attention to how life transitions impact lives by providing a tool for discovering the nuances of daily living that need to be supported.
The game, which aims to shape the dialogue between you and your parent, helps extract what is most unique about a person and respect the individual’s preferences and rhythms, validating his or her emotions, and restoring his or her self-esteem. By incorporating the conversation into a game, it might allow your parent to feel less “on the spot” and help him or her open up about daily realities. To learn more or purchase “The Cards I’ve Been Dealt,” visit thecardsivebeendealt.com.
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